What’s with this whole idea of the perfect partner or a soul mate? The One or Mr. Right?
From The Symposium by Plato “Humans originally consisted of four arms, four legs, and a single head made of two faces, but Zeus feared their power and split them all in half, condemning them to spend their lives searching for the other half to complete them.”
Is it really so that each of us has a fixed soul mate, who may even be on the other end of the world? So for the unlucky ones who don’t get to travel much, chances for finding that perfect soul mate are close to nonexistent. But then there’s always the part that fate plays… ‘What’s meant to be will always find a way.’
Also if we were to take our partner for our soul mate and expect everything to just click without any effort whatsoever we are in for a heavy dose of disappointment. For, isn’t the perfect relation, when we are willing to give more than we receive for the loved one? Isn’t that what love in itself is? To care for somebody so much that we are willing to put our own needs aside for him/her.
Soul mate for me is not the ideal or The One and only person with whom everything is a perfect fit, but someone with who we are willing to make it work, no matter what the challenges or consequences
How can one truly know if the feeling is mutual unless it’s constantly shown? And with the whole concept of soul mate this seems of no important. There is the other concept of Love at First Sight, but is even that our soul mate or just this lust brewing up inside of us to be with that person?
Is it even so important to find a partner? To love someone? To have someone to be with? Or is it all just a bunch of bullshit shoved up our asses by our peers and society. Such that even the idea of living alone scares us?
Yes the idea of being alone scares me too, but isn’t that what friends are for? Can’t we love a friend and stay content with that? We say and say that all we want is to have somebody to love, but is it really love, that we want? Or maybe more. C’mon, accept it!! Can you live without sex? Pretty much that’s the only thing separating a partner from a friend.
And what’s with this whole idea of marriage? It’s literally like a contract between two people that they’ll stay with each other till death. If it’s really love where’s the trust in signing a contract?
Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against relationships or commitments or marriages, in-fact I myself am pretty much caught up in this web to have somebody by my side, but the magnitude of this whole insanity sometimes drives me crazy! It’s not like life is not possible without a partner. Yet every time I meet somebody new and every time I find even this faintest connection with another soul, I can’t help but wonder… What if he’s The One? What if he’s my one chance of being more than a friend? What if the long stressful search can finally end? What if?
when ur mind starts thinking along the state u hav describe in the last few lines - it's time to hang on to ur horses!
ReplyDeleteUr exhausting urslf physically, mentally and emotionally if u keep on digging into ppl trying to find what does he have that u want!
Ideally let things go with the flow, nobody gets everything they want...everybody's person is a mixture of what they want and what they can get...even that person who wud be paired with u...he won't get everything he wants from u...bt u both deal with it..and u are actually happy with this deal! :)
Yeah, even taking it generally, I concentrate too much of my energies on achieving what I DON'T have. Kinda keeps me from appreciating what I do have. Which in the end leads me to nothing obviously.
ReplyDeletePakistani Boys!!! They can think what they want but Daddy and mommy are thinking otherwise.
ReplyDeleteEver TRY thinking about a She? not he or him...... that might be the remedy to loneliness.
Fact of the matter is we guys are not independent to think what we like to think.
At Any age in Pakistan you are not allowed to live alone, doesn't matter how financially sound
you get. (unless u get married at a right age)
So living with parents ("ALWAYS") dont give the liberty to even think of a BOY FRIEND let alone having a gay relationship.
And you know why ........'Cause you use them and they use you back.
They have the Power to Shatter all your wild thoughts in a jiffy when your Mother will come up to you one day " hum nay tumharay leya Larkee pasand key hai" ya "tum ko koee larkee pasand hai tow battao warna hum or tumharee bahnay will find one for you"....... What will you tell them....... i am gay or bi? (str8 guys of any part of the world think of GAY guy as a Gando, a fag and bad guy).
Your Mother is a Mountain that u cant crush with your two Nasty words "Amee May Gando hon".
Sorry my Pakistani son............
You u have no chance in this NEW 2011/2012 GAY WORLD.
Chupp chupa kay karlay......... hehe
Lol, then I think i'll have to fight to make myself a chance :)
ReplyDeleteMarrying a girl is not an option, if you are gay and not bi or straight, then marrying a girl is rather a cowardly act out of the whole situation.
And if you truly think that marrying a girl and living this life closeted is the option, then I think you are taking marriage just as a contract between 2 people to live under the same roof and to share the same bed. Where's the trust? Where's the love? Where's the being a family part? That's almost like... No wait! That is absolutely like using a person for your advantage not giving a fuck to her feelings!